Advice for Anniversary’s and Christmas
Gentle Guidance for Emotional Days
Anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas and other special dates can feel especially difficult after the loss of someone you love. These moments often bring memories and emotions to the surface — and that is entirely natural.
At Robert A. Drew & Son, we understand how tender these days can feel. We are here to offer calm guidance, reassurance and support, helping you approach each occasion in a way that feels right for you.
There is no correct or expected way to mark these moments. What matters most is finding what feels meaningful, manageable and comforting for you.
Guidance — For When You Need It Most
We understand that questions can arise at any time, and decisions can feel overwhelming.
That’s why we provide clear, step-by-step guidance on:
Acknowledge Your Feelings
You may experience sadness, longing, anxiety, anger, or even moments of calm — sometimes all at once. Every feeling is valid. Allowing yourself to recognise these emotions, without judgement, can help ease the weight of the day.
Plan Gently Ahead
Not knowing how the day will unfold can sometimes feel harder than the day itself. Thinking ahead about how you would like to spend the time — whether alone, with others, or somewhere special — can bring a sense of reassurance and control.
Create Gentle New Traditions
Small acts of remembrance can offer comfort and connection. Some families choose to:
- Light a candle
- Visit a meaningful place
- Cook a favourite meal
- Listen to music that brings comfort
- Write a letter or message to their loved one
These quiet rituals can help you feel close, while allowing space for healing over time.
Lean on Others
Sharing memories with family, friends or a trusted support group can make these days feel less heavy. Whether you talk openly, reminisce together, or simply sit in quiet company — you do not have to face these moments alone.
Look After Yourself
Grief can be both emotionally and physically tiring. Try to include small moments of calm and care, such as:
- A walk outdoors
- Listening to gentle music
- Reading or journalling
- Enjoying a quiet cup of tea
These pauses can provide strength when emotions feel overwhelming.
Be Kind to Yourself
There is no timetable for grief and no “right” way to feel. Whether you mark the occasion, change traditions, or choose to do very little — your way is enough. Be gentle with yourself and allow the day to unfold naturally.
Keeping Their Memory Alive
Remembering a loved one can be a source of comfort rather than pain. You might:
- Create or add to a memory box
- Look through photographs
- Share stories with family
- Keep a meaningful item on display
Honouring memories is not about holding on — it is often a quiet step toward healing.
Recommended Reading for Grief Support
For Adults
For Children & Young People
Reading together can gently open conversations when words feel difficult to find.
Where to Find Support
If emotions feel overwhelming, additional support is always available.
Trusted Support Organisations:
Your GP or local council in Hull or the East Riding can also help connect you with local counselling or bereavement services.
You Are Not Alone
Special dates may always carry emotion — but over time they can also become gentle reminders of love, not just loss.
However you choose to spend the day — quietly, openly, or somewhere meaningful — your way is the right way.
Robert A. Drew & Son Ltd
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Telephone: 01482 656537
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Email: robertadrew@robertadrew.karoo.co.uk
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Address: Robert A. Drew & Sons Ltd, 78 Main Street, Willerby, Hull HU10 6BZ
Whenever you are ready to talk, we are here to listen.
With guidance.
With care.
With dignity.
Robert A. Drew & Son
Here for your family — whenever you need us.